Saying you care and then turning your head to watch a ‘friend’ choke on their own heartache is worse than the person who broke their heart in the first place. No one needs your money! You are NOT the value that is in your pocket book and neither are any of the people you know. The worth of a person is invaluable and inestimable! That includes you! and that includes your ‘friend.’ You do need to protect yourself, and if you are able you are morally obligated to care for those who cannot care for themselves. Believe them or don’t, care or don’t, be there or don’t be… but don’t fucking lie to them and say You Care and then stand by and watch them die. You may feel a sense of self righteousness about the situation because you didn’t give them the initial heartache but it could be your kind words and dearth of follow through that was the final nail in their coffin. Mean what you say. Say what you do. The rest is bull shit and YOU know it.
Well, if words are what you are looking for … here are some for you.
I hope that you can cheer yourself in the wake of tragedy. When your children die because you loved them with words and not actions, I hope that you can live with it and be happy – at least on the outside. You would not want to ruin someone else’s day becase you are not smiling do you? When your neighbor is crying next door and you hear it, I hope you can be happy and turn up your music so that you are blind to their pain and numb from your own. When hard things happen, and you go through them, may you find fake people to give you fake wishes, and go about your fake life and have fake relationships… because that is apparently all that you are willing to risk, and all you are willing to do, and ALL you are willing to be. God bless you in your endevors. May you find what you are looking for. And, you will.